The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self | Alice Miller | ISBN: Das Drama des begabten Kindes und die Suche nach dem wahren Selbst. Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data. Miller, Alice. Prisoners of childhood. Translation of Das Drama des begabten Kindes. Bibliography: p. This is a specific kind of book for a specific type of person at a specific point in . #61 The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller, 1, 3, Jun 08, PM.

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Found at these bookshops Searching – please wait She has continued to write and lecture on psychological issues. No trivia or quizzes yet. According to Miller, Nietzsche did not experience a loving family and his philosophical milled was a metaphor of an unconscious kinndes against his family’s oppressive theological tradition. And in turn, we will dish out similar horror on the people we love, especially our children, unless we get the bottom of it, and find our true self, a self that might have been repressed because of a childhood trauma.

Thus a keen sensitivity as a child instils a cripplingly powerful super-ego. Now what’s begabteh problem with all this, you ask? This explained why the command “Honor thy parents” was one of the main targets in Miller’s school of psychology.

Das wahre “Drama des begabten Kindes”. These people, who give us a feeling of their intellectual strength and will power, also seem to demand that we, too, ought to fight off any feeling of weakness with intellectual means.

Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the roots of violence. He may experience his feelings—sadness, despair, or the need for help—without fear of making the mother insecure.

On the contrary, she loves the child as her self-object, excessively, though not in the manner that he needs, and always on the condition that he presents his “false self. These 2 locations in New South Wales: This healing improves your psychological health, and, she claims, will eventually lead to the re-discovery of your true self, your untraumatized soul.

Basic Books, c, c Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: Alice Miller writes with conviction dramq compassion, and Bfgabten most enjoyed how she emphasizes the hope all of us gifted children should have: Grandiosity is characterised by contempt for others who have not, as a casual example, read as many books or displayed as brilliant intellectual and artistic accomplishments.



The patient has to discover early memories within himself and must become consciously aware of his parents’ unconscious manipulation and contempt, so that he can free himself from them.

Also, this was a book written for therapists and not patients so that could have something to do with the lack of hands on advice. Books by Alice Miller. That part made me choke on my tea. Indeed, she cannot be aware of how deeply humiliated, despised, and devalued her child feels, if she herself has never consciously suffered these feelings, and if she tries to fend them off with irony.

The gist of it is that parents’ expectations of their children can be projected in such a way deama them, that it robs them from their “true feelings” and “true self”, trying to become the “perfect” child that will meet their parents approval and begaben their love. This narcissism is an internalisation of the great expectations of one’s parents, the consequent lasting feelings of inadequacy and drive to greater and greater successes that leave mi,ler hollow.

Thus we perpetuate the loneliness of childhood: Miller claims that the key to these feelings is the realisation that one was loved as a child not for who one was, but in large part at least because of one’s achievements.

Open to the public ; AQ I can’t and won’t try to summarize this book in a few trite sentences.

They had two children, Martin born and Julika born Furthermore, it seems that her entire exploration of the “gifted child” — not one who is overly bright, but rather a child who is able to empathize with his parents xrama they struggle through their issues — is based on her own mama-drama rather than on more objective studies.

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From to the family lived in Berlinwhere nine-year-old Alicija learned the German language. I hope this is true. The book described my life in extraordinary detail, it was a catharsis to see expressed what I never could have spoken. Of course, it seems rather unlikely that he went through his childhood entirely unscathed.

As I look forward to becoming a parent myself within the next few months against Larkin’s advice, if you know the rest of the poem I can only hope to not fuck up my dramaa, or at least to fuck them up as little as possible. But this freedom cannot be achieved if its childhood roots are cut off. Some people do it more obviously then others. Alice Miller shows milelr clearly how the way our parents raised us when we are children formed us psychologically. Views Read Edit View history.


This book is both brilliant and full of schlock. By using this site, you agree to the Terms of Use and Privacy Policy. But if one has lost the grandiose facade you once learned to create to be acceptable, and find yourself in a place of consequent depression because of the unconscious need to suppress one’s painful buried emotions, this book is instrumental in finding the forgotten wounds that hold you bound.

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This is a specific kind of book for a specific type of person at a specific point in their specific lives. According to prevailing, general attitudes these people–the pride of their parents–should have had a strong stable sense of self-assurance.

Psychologist and world renowned author, who is noted for her books on child abuse, translated in several languages. The child who is victimized by the Narcissist is gifted because they deal with such heavy challenges and become over-sensitive to others’ needs, always eager to please, while allice their own self-knowledge, emotions and needs.

View online Borrow Buy Freely available Show 0 more links Child abuse Dani Levy Mlller abuse Poisonous pedagogy — further explanation of Miller’s theories Psychohistory Trauma model of mental disorders True self and false self Gegabten. This is all pretty simplified, the book is brief and well worth reading particularly if you see aspects of yourself or someone you know in the above.

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After recovering somewhat from my parent’s punishment of me for saying the truth to them about themselves during my childhood, I am now able to realize that kjndes is true that the most commonly practiced child-rearing practices devastate us psychologically, and that I need to re-discover what my parents did to me during my childhood and how I felt about it in order to recover my psychological health.

Narcissus did not fall in love with himself, but with a false reflection of jindes. Miller first stated that his mother intervened, but later that she did not intervene.